‘It’s my home too': Brothers buy a house together, then after 11 years, the eldest gets married, and tries to kick out his sibling to start a family

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Sep 25, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

A pair of brothers bought a house together, but when the time came for one of them to want the place just to himself, their relationship became rocky. The problem is that they both bought it together: their names are on the mortgage together, they made a down payment together, and they've both lived there for over a decade. 

So the question remains. Who gets dibs on a shared home? 

The eldest brother with a new wife who wants to start a family of his own? Or the younger brother who doesn't mind their shared living situation? Frankly, in a dispute between simple roommates, it's usually the one who wants a place of their own who's responsible for finding a new place to live, but this older brother felt that he was entitled to kick lil' bro out on the curb, just because he wanted to redecorate his room into a nursery. 

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  • Aita for refusing to move out of the house I share with my brother and his wife?
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  • At a certain point, the house belongs to them both. Both brothers have spent an equal share of time making this house into a home, so in my opinion, if the oldest wants to get out and start a family, that's his prerogative. However, it's unfair to kick out the youngest—someone happy with their living arrangement—just because you don't want a roommate anymore. 

    Read on for a taste of this family dispute in a viral story online; perhaps you'll feel differently about a sibling disagreement far heavier than fighting over the TV remote. 

  • This will be a bit of a long story, but in 2012, when I was 20 and my brother was 22, he moved to another city and started renting a small house from
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  • an elderly woman. With five other students. Later, when I was 22 and my brother was 24, I decided to change my major and attend university in his
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  • city. During that time, the five students in his house became just one, so... I moved in. Two more years: it was just my brother and I, and the old lady decided
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  • to move to America and sell the house. She asked if we want to buy it. The price was... too good so we didn't even think and said yes. And this is how the house became ours.
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  • In 2018, my brother met his future wife. In 2020, they married, and she moved in with us. The situation was a bit strange,
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  • but ultimately it didn't bother me. Like, we're not at home most of the time anyway because we're all working.
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  • But, 2 months ago, my brother came to me and said we needed to have "this talk." What did he mean by "this talk"? That I needed to move out. At
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  • first, he tried to claim it was for my own good and that I was "too old to live with my older brother," but well... then he let it slip
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  • that he and Olivia were planning to have children, like at least three. Which led us to "we want to redecorate your room for one of the kids.".
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  • I immediately refused and reminded him that the house was also in my name. My brother said he was willing to pay me for my share, but I "really need to move out.". I said
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  • that if I had to move out, I would take all the things I had bought myself in recent years (which means about 70% of the kitchen,
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  • bathroom, living room, and generally common areas). My brother got angry and the conversation ended.
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  • I haven't experienced anything bad after that and after a week, he even apologized for his behavior and everything seemed to be going well.
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  • Then... our father showed up last Friday. He was ready to "help me pack my stuff" and "take me back to family house". My
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  • brother and his wife were not home at the time, and when I told my father that I didn't know what he meant, he was confused
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  • and told me that he and my brother had been talking about it for two months and, according to my brother, "everything was already sorted out."
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  • I ended up sending my father home, and my brother and his wife and I had a huge fight where they called me selfish. But I don't think I'm being selfish? Like, it's my home too.
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  • crasho7. See what the house would sell for on the open market and let your brother buy you out. Or vice versa. Someone's got to go. Make it equitable. NTA
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  • No_Eye_3423. What the h I?? NTA. If he wants you to move out he can BUY you out. And what a I move to send your dad without your knowledge. You own half of the house; he can't throw you out.
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